When people encounter someone with a strong personality, they don’t understand the kind of person they are dealing with.

当人们遇到性格强势的人时，他们不了解对方到底是什么样的。

Some people think you dominate. Some just think you are rude. But none of these are the truth. These words actually do not reflect your personality at all. In fact, strong people are often kittens on the inside. It’s just that people with domineering personalities just give you a bad rep.

有些人认为你盛气凌人，有些人认为你就是粗鲁。但这些都不是事实。这些词语根本不能描述你真正的性格。实际上，强势的人往往在内心就是只小猫，让你名声坏的正是那些真正盛气凌人的人。

Strong people do not have to win, they just are not willing to let other people walk all over them on the outside.

强势的人并不是一定要赢，他们只是不愿意让人任意欺负。

Here are eight signs that you have a strong personality that might scare some people.

这里有8个迹象显示你也许有着强势到吓人的性格。

You Don’t Put Up With Excuses

你不能忍受借口

Strong personalities do not put up with excuses. When you have a strong personality, you’re not willing to listen to people waste time whining about what they can do. You would rather focus on what you can do and how you can overcome obstacles to do more.

强势的人不能忍受借口。如果你性格强势，你就不愿意浪费时间听别人叨叨他们能做什么。你宁愿专注于你所能做的事上，以及怎样克服障碍做更多的事。

Don’t question yourself for not making excuses. There might be a lot of reasons that you can’t do something but there are more reasons that you can.

别因为你不愿找借口而怀疑自己。也许有很多你不能做某事的理由，但是你能做某事的理由会更多。

You Are Careful About Who You Let Into Your Life

你在让谁走进你的生活这一点上非常小心

As a strong person, you do not rely on other people to tell you who you are, what you are or what you can do. You recognize that some people need to do that to make themselves feel better. You also recognize that some people need to hear these things to feel whole.

作为一个强势的人，你不会依赖别人，让别人告诉你你是谁、你是怎样的以及你能做什么。你知道有人会有这样的依赖性，这样他们会感觉更好。你也知道有些人需要听到这些东西才能感到自己是完整的。

Even if you don’t yet know exactly who you are, you know that you do not need a boyfriend, girlfriend, boss, best friend or family member to tell you what you’re capable of. You can figure that out on your own.

即使你不完全知道你到底是谁，你也不需要一个男朋友、女朋友、老板或是家庭成员来告诉你你能做什么。你自己就能找到答案。

You Hate Small Talk

你讨厌闲谈

Small talk is terrible. If you have a strong personality, you have a lot of ideas. You do not want to waste time talking about people when you could be changing the world.

闲谈是很惹人厌的。如果你是个强势的人，你会很有思想。你不想要浪费时间去谈论人，因为你有能力改变世界。

You might feel like you are bad at small talk. But that is not true. Anyone can make small talk using free Arabic fonts. What you’re feeling is a discomfort because small talk wastes time and brain cells.

你可能会觉得你不擅长闲谈。但这不是事实。所有人都能不受拘束地闲谈。你感到不舒服是因为闲谈浪费时间和脑细胞。

You Can’t Stand Insensitivity, Idiocy or Ignorance

你不能忍受不敏感、白痴或是无知

Dominating personalities come from a lack of influence or knowledge. Strong personalities are the result of being thoughtful and well-informed. There is a huge difference between the two.

盛气凌人的性格源于缺乏一定的影响力或是知识。而强势的性格来自体贴和博识。两者之间差异很大。

Because you have put time and effort into using your brain for good, you hate it when people make instant judgements about things they do not know anything about. This is probably your best quality but not because you can use your knowledge to influence people. It is because you can use it to encourage people to actually think about what they say before it falls out of their mouth.

因为你一直致力于认真思考，你会厌恶人们对自己一无所知的事物不假思索地下判断。这也许是你最好的特质，但这并不是因为你能用你的知识去影响别人，而是因为你能用这种特质使得人们在表达自己的意见之前认真思考。

You Know How to Listen

你知道怎样聆听

People with strong personalities know how to listen. You might think that people would appreciate this. But in reality, being heard and encouraged actually terrifies people who are not used to it.

性格强势的人知道怎样聆听。你也许认为人们会赞赏这一点。但是在现实中，被聆听被鼓励往往会吓坏那些不习惯的人。

You Do Not Need Attention

你不需要别人的关注

Having this type of personality means that you do not need attention. Most people that you encounter think that you thrive on it but this is not the truth. It just that your personality attracts people to you. The amount of socializing you do is not because you want to do it but because people need people like you around.

有这样性格的的人不需要别人的关注。大多数人认为你喜欢如此，但这也不是事实。你的性格会吸引别人接近你。你社交并不是因为你喜欢社交，而是别人需要你这样的人。

Despite this perception, you still need time to recharge. Don’t be afraid to take it. It is just as important to take care of yourself as it is to take care of other people.

虽然如此，但你还是需要时间充电。别怕，照顾自己和照顾别人两者是一样重要的。

You Are Fearless

你是无畏的

Okay, this one is not true. There is probably one thing that you are afraid of. But the difference between you and other people is that you do not let this fear dictate the way you live your life.

好吧，这一点不是真的。也许有一样东西是你很害怕的。但你和别人的区别在于，你不会让这种恐惧影响你的生活方式。

You Take Insecurity As An Opportunity

你把无把握当做是机会

Insecurity for you is an opportunity to do better. You know you’re not perfect but if you are not trying to learn and evolve, despite the risk of looking like a fool, then you are not living. You are just existing.

对你来讲，没有把握就是有机会做得更好。你知道你不是完美的，但是如果你不去学不去发展，就怕看起来像个笨蛋，那么你不是在生活，只是在生存。

They say everyone is insecure and this is probably true. But not everyone has to stop this insecurity from letting them live their life and own the things that they are insecure about.

人们说每个人都没有把握，这也许是真的。但不是每个人都会阻止这种不确定性妨碍他们过自己的生活，得到那些他们没把握得到的东西。

Sure, some people think that people with big personalities are difficult to be around. But you’re only difficult to be around because you challenge other people to be the best version of themselves! If this is what being difficult is like then you already know that it is best to just keep being you.

当然有些人认为性格强势的人很难相处。但是你难相处的唯一原因在于你迫使别人变成最好的自己！如果这就是难相处，那你已经知道继续做自己就是最好的了。