很多时候，女人就像好莱坞大片里面的女主角。

你一定知道我说的是什么样的女主角：瘦弱的女孩遇险，耐心地等待一个强大的男人来救她，无论她被困的森林多么难找，男人一定能找到她然后赤手救了她，将女人包裹在自己魁梧的身体里。

Sometimes it feels as if every single woman ever to grace the silver screen of a major motion Hollywood picture is depicted the same exact way. A trip to the movie theatre is f*cking groundhogs day.

You know exactly what sort of leading lady I’m talking about: the damaged damsel in distress who’s tragically tethered to the tree of danger and is patiently awaiting a sweepingly powerful (masculine) energy to find her in the thick of the forest cut the ropes with his bare hands rescue her and wrap up her tiny body in his big burly arms.

或者女人陷入自我虐待的悲惨旋涡—直到天崩地裂的时刻一个权威的男性人物神奇地出现在她的生活中，瞬间爱上了她，并将她带到自己身边。

OR it’s the doe-eyed heartbreakingly self-destructive wife who hates herself with a fervent relentlessness and we watch teary-eyed as she spirals into the harrowing vortex of addiction and self-abuse — until the earth shattering moment an authoritative male figure magically appears in her life by absolute happenstance and an instant falls in love with her and peels her off the ground saving her from the cell of herself.

这样的故事太虐心了！

我们希望女孩能能够更加自强自尊，能尽职尽责地过好自己的生活，能够自己赚钱，并有强大的精神世界。但，当一个特别有能力，特别独立的女人出现在人们面前时，人们通常会疏远她。

It’s confusing.

We will dutifully teach a young girl the utmost importance of thinking for herself and making her own money yet when she emerges into the real world as strong powerful freethinking force of girl nature — we instantly alienate her.

我们告诉女人要自信，却也希望她们能为男人迷醉。

我们鼓励女人说出自己的伟大思想，同时却又告诉她们不要太激进。

我们教给女人自给自足的重要性，但仍然指示她们要和有钱的男人结婚。

We’re instructing them to be self-assured yet every pop culture song on the radio is a bubble gum blonde singing about how much she not only wants but needs the boy.

We’re encouraging them to speak their glorious minds and when they do we tell them how radical and unlovable they are.

We’re teaching them the importance of being self-sufficient yet we still instruct them to marry only wealthy men.

那么，我们的社会到底因为什么而不愿意真正拥抱独立的女人呢？为什么独立的女人令人害怕？

Why is everyone so threatened by a girl who is independent?

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1、因为她们做事有自己的一套规则

一个独立的女人不需要你告诉她事情该怎么做，她有她自己的一套，有自己的规则。
独立的女人总是自己思考事情，在学校中能把学校项目水平提高很多，有时候甚至成为老师的焦虑。

An independent woman doesn’t need you to tell her it’s okay. She has her own set of rules that she penned herself with her own ink.

She was the type of girl who always took school projects to the next level the kind of student who gave teachers anxiety when she went to present to the classroom.

她会带来一系列复杂的问题，很多问题都无法回答。

为什么我们如此害怕女孩遵守了自己的一套规则？因为她不害怕惹上麻烦。

What dear WHAT was she going to do this time and what complex unanswerable questions would she pose to the class?

Why are we so afraid of a girl who abides by her own set rules? Because she’s not afraid to get in trouble. Because “consequence” is just a word in a sea of many.
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2、因为她们不担心别人对自己有意见

独立的女人是可以达到独立思考的境界的，她拥有最强大的自由的心灵。
你最好相信，她不害怕表达自己全新的观点。她不能，也不会被洗脑，尤其是与她意志相反的道德准则。

An independent woman attains independent thought. She has the most powerful freedom of all freedom of the mind.

And you better believe she’s not afraid of expressing her fresh perspective and well educated point-of-view either. She can not and will not be brainwashed into thinking or feeling a certain way especially if it’s against her strong-willed code of ethics.
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3、因为她们做事不需要事后验证

作为神圣的独立的女人，Mohadesa Najumi曾说过：不需要任何验证的女人是这个星球上最可怕的人。
独立女人的自信是不依赖于他人的，它来自于一个更强大，稳固的地方：内心。自尊来源于内心的自信，而不是依赖于浅层的赞美或验证。

As the divine independent woman Mohadesa Najumi once stated:

The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.

An independent woman’s confidence is not reliant on others it comes from a far more powerful stable place: within herself. When your self-esteem is your own and isn’t dependent on shallow compliments or validation it’s real confidence.
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4、因为她不害怕晒出自己的荣耀

一个独立的女人不会“假谦虚。”她不会掩饰好的东西，好的地方一定要晒出来。
我们赞扬妇女，然后对她们回复一句“谢谢”，而不是“它是什么。”

An independent woman doesn’t hide behind the mask of “false modesty.”

Why do we push women to blow off their accomplishments? We compliment women and then are thrown positively jarred when they reply with a “thank you” rather than “it was nothing.”

一个独立的女人是猛烈而老实的，对她们来说，最严重的罪过就是假装自己很强。她们没必要假装，因为荣耀大可晒出来。

An independent woman is ferociously honest and pretending she isn’t proud of herself would be lying — the worst sin of all sins.
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5、因为她们不会被吓到

独立的女人是不会被吓倒的。她知道她有能力阻止她自己受到任何伤害。

An independent woman is not intimidated by the hierarchy. She knows she can hold her own anywhere and that there is absolutely zero reason to be frightened unless you’re in physical danger.

反过来，她被看作是一个疯狂吓人的动物，有时候甚至会恐吓别人以得到尊重。

In turn she is seen as a wildly intimidating creature especially to those who use cheap fear tactics to gain respect.
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6、因为她们不需要别人

一个独立的女人真的不需要任何人。她不需要依靠爱情和亲情生活，她可以自己搞定一切。

An independent woman is so scary to the masses because she really doesn’t need anyone.

如果你爱上一个独立的女人，并且她也喜欢你，多半是因为她想要你，而不是因为她需要你。

The beautiful part is this: If you fall in love with an independent woman and she loves you back it’s because she wants you — not because she needs you. And that is the purest love of all.
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7因为她不需要你喜欢她

一个独立，直率，精明的女人已经接受不是每个人都会喜欢她这个事实。

An independent outspoken smart woman has accepted that not everyone is going to like her and unlike a lot of woman that doesn’t throw her.

她拥有自己的思想，情感和意见，她不需要别人的认可，你喜不喜欢她，她仍然我行我素，做自己。她控制着自己的情感，表现得恰到好处。

She owns her thoughts feelings and opinions with such a fierce intensity that the endless stream of hate society bestows upon her simply isn’t enough to stop her from being her f*cking awesome individual authentic self.

实际上，所有独立的人，不论是男人还是女人，做事都不简单，但或许因为女人天生就要弱小，所以她们一旦独立起来就令人害怕。

After all independent people male or female or anyone in between aren’t ones to take the easy way out. That’s why they’re the great groundbreakers of the universe.
YES! WHY???

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